They are a wonderful thing, being surrounded by other people who share your “weird” obsession with all things yarn.
They get you out of the house on a semi-regular basis. Your fellow crafters can be a source of inspiration, encouragement, and knowledge.
But what if you just don’t click with the other S&B members? You don’t feel like you fit for some reason. It does happen, and it’s ok. Like any other social group, sometimes you just don’t mess well with certain people. Personalities clash, socio-economic status between you and the rest of the group may be too drastic, maybe they are very vocal about religious or politic topics and you just want to relax without real-world drama. That’s ok. And it’s ok to walk away from the group and look for another. I’ve done it. My first knitting group was a small one, comprised mostly of ladies who knew and hung out with each other outside the group as well. There was even a mother-daughter duo in the group. The age gap was large, most of them were my mother’s age or older. (This doesn’t necessarily cause issues all the time, but different age groups can have different viewpoints on many things, which can lead to disagreements.) I was a very new knitter at the time, and very excited to learn that S&B’s were a thing. I found them on Ravelry. And the Starbucks that they met at wasn’t TOO far away from me. Being a very very new knitter, I was amazed by the fancy projects that were working on (see “inspiration” mentioned about) and even more amazed (and slightly shocked) by the expensive, fancy yarn they used. Yarn from this place called KnitPicks, and other brands like Malabrigo and Madeline Tosh. I had never heard of these before. They were beautiful, everyone seemed to have them, and I lusted after them while I knit with my Paton’s Kroy sock yarn from A.C. Moore. (a note, there is NOTHING wrong with using yarn from a Big Box Store. All yarn has a place/purpose in crafting. I still use, and LOVE Paton’s Kroy sock yarn.)
Anyway, I never quite felt like I fully belonged in that group. They all mostly lived in the more expensive area north of me. They were kind of snooty. I accidentally offended the mother during a White Elephant holiday exchange (Sorry, but that Knitting magazine full of Downtown Abbey inspired patterns just did not speak to me.) and eventually I stopped going because her passive-aggressiveness and the lack of sympathy from the others just became too much.
So I googled and found new group! And it was amazing. the age range was larger and there were more people my age. Not everyone was a yarn snob! The group dynamics have kind of shifted over the past year or so due to disagreements and drama between some members. People move on and new people join. For the most part though, the majority of the people in the group are still “my people”. I even hang out with a few of them outside of our weekly meet ups and consider them very good friends. Long story short, don’t be afraid to join a new knitting group. They are mostly full of lovely people. And don’t be afraid to leave and find a new group if you feel like you need to. You’ll find your people eventually. ❤